Just to make it clear before we start that this post is regarding my opinions on the decisions to become a mother in the future, and what we as women have to choose between in this process. Although, I am not yet a mother, I am step mumma to a lovely little boy, and I’m at the age, and situation that I think about the possibility of becoming a mum. This leads me and probably many other women in this sport to many questions like, when is the right time? Is there a right time? How long will I be out of training for? What training can I still do whilst pregnant? How will I be able to train after I have a baby? Among other questions. This post aims to answer as many of these questions as possible. If you have any more questions please feel free to leave a comment at the bottom of the page.
When is the right time?
To be honest there probably is no right time or right answer to this question, but for me I have to decide between how much do I want to train? Or compete? And how financially stable am I? Right now, me and dan live in a little flat in Bristol, saving up to buy our first home. I am also enjoying for the first time not having to work a 7-5 job, being at uni and trying to juggle everything. This year I’m working in a school so that I have more time and energy to train BJJ, and I feel great. I’m also looking forward to competing at the No-Gi Europeans in October. So having a baby right now is not on the cards. But that doesn’t stop friends and family from frequently asking me when it’s going to be. It seems as soon as you turn to mid-20s, everyone wants to know, but it is completely up to you. If your really into your training, right now probably isn’t the best time, but don’t stress because you can have a baby up until your 40 nowadays so there is no rush. Then on the other side if you do decide that you want to start a family now, it doesn’t mean your Jiu-Jitsu journey is over. There is plenty of mums who come back to BJJ after or even that start after because it has so many health benefits.
How long will I be out of training for?
Realistically, I would think that you will be out of training for at least a year minimum. As you need to recover after giving birth, and you need to get used to being a new mum too. The beauty of jiu-jitsu is you can do it at any age, and you can always come back to your journey at anytime. So whether you take a year out or more, you can always come back. In fact when you come back you may find for the first year you may have more time to train if your not working. You just need to find the right gym so you can bring your new little one along with you. Then of course when they get a little older they can come join in jiu-Jitsu too!
What training can I still do whilst pregnant?
I personally wouldn’t risk doing any sort of BJJ whilst pregnant. I know some people do but I just think it is too much of a risk. Even with a trusted training partner, or smaller person, accidents could still happen. Even if you are just drilling or flow rolling at the beginning, its just not worth it for the risk you are putting your little one in. This doesn’t mean you have to completely cut out in all training, and do nothing during pregnancy. If your used to training most days, to suddenly stop would drive you crazy! I know it would for me. I would recommend going to the gym to lift weights, but nothing too heavy. When your pregnant you do not want to put any stress on the body and the baby. So only lift light weights, but do more reps. Make sure you know the correct technique so that you do not injure yourself, and focus on mobility. I would suggest going to pregnancy yoga because that is what I’m looking forward too.
How will I be able to train after I have a baby?
Once your body has fully recovered, and you feel awake enough to come back to training. Then make sure it’s ok with your BJJ academy to bring your baby along to training. If it’s ok, then your be able to start training as many times as you feel you can. As long as your little one is safe and entertained on the side. You may even be able to train more if you are not working, just remember to ease back into it and listen to your body. Over the last 2 years, I have became a step mumma to a little boy, who stays with us every other weekend. And although this is a fairly small amount of time each month, I have gained an insight into what balancing training and being a mum would be like. We have taken him to come to our BJJ academy, and keep him entertained with toys while we train. As well as bringing him to start the kids class when he got old enough, which he loves.
I hope this post gave you a little more insight into some very tough decisions. Thanks for reading. Please leave any comments below of your thoughts and experiences on becoming a BJJ Mum.